I want to talk about why we guard ourselves with walls around our heart. We do this out of protection mode, so we won’t get hurt. The reason we do this is because people have hurt us in the past from words they have said, embarrassment, lies, disappointment, failures, set backs, rejection, on and on.
We can put up walls in our marriage. Maybe your husband has hurt your or maybe you are holding on to hurts from the past. When my husband and I got married we took a marriage assessment that was nothing like prepare and enrich but it did identify that my husband didn’t feel a lot of affection from me. This was puzzling to me because I knew how much love and affection I was capable of but it was difficult for me to show this to my husband. It wasn’t until I realized my heart became hardend because of past hurts. The more I dealt with the hurts of the past the more freely I was able to love. The truth is I was only giving a fraction of the love I had because I would only let me husband in my heart so much. The truth is the walls didn’t do anything but hinder me, they were a false since of security that I would never get hurt like I had been before. Once I realized this I forgave the ones who hurt me, I released them from the bitterness I had, and then I blessed them.
If you are ready to let the walls down and be able to love freely like Christ loves us choose to forgive the ones that have hurt you. The more you do this the more free you will become.